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Outgrown something?
What are the tell tale signs, when you know you have outgrown something?
Bored, unhappy, in the doldrums, not learning anything, its not fun anymore, it just doesn’t feel right, you’re coasting, you’re faultfinding, frustrations are rising, constantly checking for alternatives, there is no stretch anymore, you feel way too comfortable, there is little satisfaction, time just seems to drag, you’re not engaged…Inside you just know its time to move on and change.
All of the above? Some of the above?
Sounds or feels familiar? The signs are clear?
As a coach, I have listened to this tale on numerous occasions. In fact, I have lost count how many times.
So – what now?
Firstly, give it some real thought, ponder, reflect and revisit your goals – what do you want from life?
Secondly, speak to someone you trust. A partner, your boss, a colleague, a friend, perhaps even a coach. Share your thoughts, keep an open mind and explore opportunities together.
Outgrowing things happen. Listen to your intuition – you’ll know!
Determination
And then it changed.
In our virtual session, all of the participants were viewing images representing different experiences or emotions connected with ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐. Each participant was to select an image that really resonated with them personally.
I asked the session producer to select one of the many images and asked participants to identify themselves if they had selected that specific image. The producer randomly chose one of those participants… and then it began.
The image chosen – ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง.
I asked the participant why this image resonated with her. She then shared a portion of her life story that had been filled with adversity, physical challenge and major setbacks. Yet there was a determination not to let those setbacks get in the way of her own ambitions. In that moment, we all listened intently, in wonder and awe – each of us touched by her emotional testimony. I’ve tried hard to imagine what her life may have been like.
No matter whatever life had thrown at her, she chose to carry on enjoying the challenge of life with optimism, a positive outlook and a gritty determination.
Resilience is a choice, we can all develop much more.
What is your reaction in the face of adversity?
Small things
“Let’s see how far you can reach” said the optician. As it turned out, not very far! “Okay, let’s see if I can help” he continued.
I knew my eyesight had deteriorated and it had been well over 2 years since my last test. Lockdown had delayed my test even further, plus I was now spending so much more time behind a laptop screen every day, I was sure that wasn’t helping.
So the optician went to work by trying lots of different lenses, tweaking them a little here and there. It seemed complex to me, but it was obviously simple for him. Every now and again he’d asked me to read the chart again, and little by little, my sight improved, until finally he said “that’s you now with 20/20 vision.”
What a difference, as I was able to read down to the smallest of the letters on the chart.
My vision changed.
By small and simple things, great things happen.
The world has been turned upside down.
Just like the optician helped restore my 20/20 vision, what small and simple things can you do to help someone in need, at home, at work or in your community?
Disruptive Innovation
Dinosaurs are extinct. A seismic cataclysmic change brought their ultimate demise. Currently, many organisations face a similar fate.
The global economic crisis is tightening its grip, daily choking long established companies as well as new players on the world stage. ย One by one countless organisations are failing. Every organisation large or small is being challenged by this unprecedented time of disruptive change.
Organisations must adapt or they will fail.ย Governments are grappling daily with the economic crisis caused by COVID-19.ย Whilst frantically, organisations are coming to terms with their new reality.
The Greek root of the word crisis, literally means โturning pointโ or โdecisive moment.โ
This is it.ย
This downturn is changing the way we live and work.
No organisation can stand still. Many are already faltering or in reverse. They must change gear, tailor an agile response and move forward, or like the dinosaurs they too will become artefacts, cast into a museum for us to recall how the once mighty have fallen.
In order to survive organisations, need a breakthrough, a complete paradigm shift from business as usual in order to adapt to the acceleration of external change.ย In turn they must progress to new ways of working and new norms. A gargantuan effort to find new innovative ways to survive is crucial.
Whatever advanced operating practices, products and services are on offer โ they must remain relevant to the new world order.
- Why is change inevitable?
- How are you adapting?
- How agile are you?
- What does your new beginning look like?
- What new leadership behaviours are emerging?
Disruption!
Choices
Earlier this morning, I discovered this poem circulating on social media – appropriately written for our time. Before hastily returning to your pre-lockdown life, please consider these words. I hope we will all choose a better way. Enjoy!
“And the people stayed home. And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still. And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently.
And the people healed. And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.”
๐จ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐: The poem is attributed to various authors from 1869, 1919 and even now in 2020 variations of the name Kathleen O’Mara, Catherine M. O’Meara and Kitty O’Meara. My own research indicates it was written only a few weeks ago for our day by Kitty O’Meara.
What are you choosing to change?
Normal
Weโre quite protective over the notion of normal.
Before we rush back to “normal” can we just pause and think about what parts of “normal” we really want to rush back to.
For starters – what exactly is normal?
In our present day, normal is perhaps most often used to mean โconforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern,โ or โordinary or usual; the same as would be expected.” But types, standards, and regular patterns (or what is considered โregularโ) unquestionably shift, as we have seen in the last few weeks during lockdown. Yet each of these definitions can lead to different (and contradictory) interpretations of what normal could really mean.
What is normal for one person may be abnormal for another.
As I have started to ponder what normal actually means, over time I have attached my own meaning to the words normal and abnormal. Ultimately I’ve realised that normal has a very different meaning for everyone!
Whatever your new normal is, ask yourself what have I discovered about myself? Then, going forward together, lets choose to build a more humane, compassionate and sustainable world – please!
So, what new normal are you creating for yourself?
Think!
Lately, I have reflected on many of the wonderful experiences I’ve had in my life. My journals too have really helped me to recall some great memories.
My invitation today is a simple one.
It is a really valuable exercise every once in a while to close your eyes and think! Whilst doing so, you can reflect upon lots of questions – try this one for starters…
“What is the most wonderful moment I have lived through during the last year?”
It could be a special large event, or a very simple moment or a lovely conversation with a good friend. Big or small, it doesn’t matter. Simply slow down, close your eyes, take a moment, remember that special occasion and let the warm feelings that will come lift your spirits and fill your soul. I know that memories have great power!
Remember – change starts in your thoughts!
Becoming
This time of enforced solitude is a tremendous opportunity for self reflection, learning and growth.