๐‹๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฃ๐จ?

Years ago, in one of my many coaching conversations, I worked with a senior leader in an organisation who highly valued his professionalism. (To protect his identity, Iโ€™ll call him Max).
Max had a great track record with the organisation.
In my first meeting with Max, I noticed something.
In fact, I observed a lot.
His whole body told me that he was lost and really didnโ€™t want to be there.
Heโ€™d lost his purpose; his meaning and the organisation had become a frustration for him.
Max had lost his ๐’Ž๐’๐’‹๐’.
Mojo; meaning – influence, confidence or personal charisma.
His spirit had shrunk and was sagging.
His body was downtrodden and browbeaten.
His eyes looked jaded and dulled.
His sparkle had long since disappeared.
He was lost.
I felt sad.

Coaching

As his coach, I worked with Max for several months.
Initially, our coaching conversations were more about others in his team and the organisation.
But then the sessions turned towards Max.
We embarked upon an intensive and deep journey together.
We searched long and hard to find answers.
During those profound listening sessions, Max began to find his purpose and meaning.
In those months, he reconnected with himself.
He slowed down.
With a little help and lots of self-reflection a new door had opened.
His search was over.
He discovered a new purpose, much bigger, yet simpler, that filled his entire being.
Heโ€™d tuned into himself.
He found the courage to step into his unique calling.
He found his mojo.
Now from a distance, I watch Max shine.
How have you reclaimed your mojo in life?

Ones

Half of two; 1
One is singularly unique and one of a kind.
As individuals, you and I are ๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ.
As mission leaders Monic and I are not simply managing an organisation, directing programmes, planning schedules, or controlling resources.
Rather, our foremost, indeed, the key stewardship responsibility that we have as Mission Leaders, is to minister individually to each and every ๐Ž๐๐„ of the missionaries past, present and future.

Our Quest

Our quest is to help each one of them become a lifelong disciple of Jesus Christ.
We minister to each of them, just like the oft repeated pattern found in the scriptures, ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’†.
Some years ago, President Gordon B. Hinckley counselled, โ€œWe must look after the individual. Christ always spoke of individuals. He healed the sick, individually. He spoke in his parables of individuals. This Church is concerned with individuals, notwithstanding our numbers. Whether they be 6 or 10 or 12 or 50 million, we must never lose sight of the fact that the individual is the important thingโ€.
The pattern continues today, in our one-by-one ministering to each missionary.
One way we do that, is during every transfer period of six weeks, we meet with every missionary throughout the mission, one by one, for 20 โ€“ 30 minutes in a coaching interview.
All 100+ of them.
It is a pattern the Saviour himself established.

Scripture Examples

In the scriptures there are many examples where Jesus Christ ministered to ones.
The Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25 โ€“ 37), The Parable of the Lost Sheep (Luke 15:4-7), The Parable of the Piece of Silver (Luke 15:8-10), The Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-24), when Jesus appeared to Thomas (John 20:24-29) and many more.
In the Book of Mormon, the phrase ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’† is used six times, four of which are used by Jesus Christ in His personal ministry to the Nephites in the 3rd book of Nephi.
Elder David A. Bednar has taught that โ€œHe intercedes for each daughter and son. One by one.โ€
This week, we began our one-by-one pattern of interviews in Apeldoorn.
I have learned that the most important things are done individually.
Following each interview, I took some time to capture a few of our treasured ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’† moments.
What can you do to better follow the Saviourโ€™s example of ministering ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’†?

Letters to President

Are you excited when you receive a letter?
Every week, I receive letters from many of the missionaries serving throughout Belgium and the Netherlands.
In my time as a young missionary 40 years ago, serving in London, they arrived by post. Now, they arrive by email every P-Day (Preparation Day) โ€“ a Tuesday.
I am always excited to read their letters and hear about all that is going on in the mission field.
They share personal stories, challenges, spiritual insights and respond to several questions such as the following:

Questions

โ€ข Please share a few successes and/or challenges from your efforts to fulfil your missionary purpose this past week.
โ€ข During the past week, did you feel joy and satisfaction in your work?
โ€ข How united did you feel with your companion(s) this past week?
โ€ข What is one area you can focus on this coming week to more closely follow the principles in Missionary Standards for Disciples of Jesus Christ?
โ€ข Did you participate in any companion exchanges this past week?
โ€ข Are there any physical or emotional health, safety, or security challenges that you would like to share?
โ€ข Is there anything happening at home or with your family that you would like to share?
โ€ข Is there anything else you would like to share?
โ€ข During the past month, how have you seen the hand of the Lord in your work?

Responding

Yesterday, I spent most of my day, reading and responding to many letters.
I thoroughly enjoyed my time understanding all that is happening throughout the mission.
After 2 years of reading letters, I am constantly thrilled to learn about the many divine experiences that happen week in, week out through the ministering efforts of these young missionaries.
Their sincerity, their faith in Jesus Christ, their spiritual insights, their drive and determination is real.
The Lordsโ€™ hand is in the details of their work, every single day.
If you havenโ€™t spoken with one of our young missionaries, then now is the time to reach out and listen.
Many of the messages in their letters to me are filled with miraculous experiences and wonders galore.
Yes โ€“ miracles happen in our day, every day.
If you allow them to, missionaries can help you slow down and see His hand in your life too.
You may not receive a weekly letter from them as I do, but the message theyโ€™ll share with you is equally as potent and powerful.
Go on, reach out to a missionary today and ask them to share a message with youโ€ฆ I know you won’t regret it! ๐Ÿ™‚

Rebuilding

Itโ€™s been an emotionally charged week in the mission field.
Change is an inevitable part of missionary life. Itโ€™s also tiring.
Every six weeks missionaries come and go in the transferโ€™s process.
This week 5 new missionaries arrived and 13 returned home.
๐‘ป๐’‰๐’Š๐’“๐’•๐’†๐’†๐’, who were the backbone of the mission for so long.
As the backbone, each of these missionaries provided great strength to many others.
Indeed, they were a great support to the entire mission.
We all experience change and in the mission field it is a frequent visitor.

Stretch Zone

As change happens, routines are disrupted, and it takes us out of our comfort zone.
โ€œIf you’re growing, you’re always out of your comfort zone.โ€ says John Maxwell.
Missionaries grow a lot, and often!
Change requires rebuilding and others to step up.
New companionships, new areas, new trainers, and new leaders.
Emotions have been running high.
Kindness and compassion take on new meaning during times of stretching change.

Discomforts

C. S. Lewis indicated there is often discomfort in change when he wrote of Godโ€™s expectations for His children…
โ€œImagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on: you knew those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently he starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought ofโ€”throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were going to be made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palaceโ€.
As a โ€œliving houseโ€ several missionaries have been asked to step up, to train, and others, to lead.
Rebuilding in the mission is underway (again), as another โ€œnew wing, extra floor, towers, courtyardโ€ are being added.
How do you step up during times of constant change?

Crucial Conversations

Consider the two words below.
– rea๐‚tive
– ๐‚reative
These two words describe the mindset that you can bring to any conversation.
There is a key difference in the position of the letter โ€œ๐‚โ€
Best-selling author Neale Donald Walsch, says โ€œWhen we ๐‚ things correctly, life becomes ๐‚reative instead of rea๐‚tive.โ€
Repositioning a letter… one ๐’”๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’ move, makes a ๐’‰๐’–๐’ˆ๐’† difference.
Our mindset is vitally important.
Changing the way, we talk with one another; will change the way we act.
And subsequently changing the way people act, will in turn, as a result, change the outcomes.
Recently Iโ€™ve been involved in several conversations about presence.
Presence: being aware of what is happening in the moment, experiencing body sensations, noticing thoughts, feeling emotions.
Whilst deepening your presence can be somewhat challenging, the results can be transformative.
When we are present, we are in touch with whatโ€™s really happening.
Research reveals that presence is a capacity that can be developed by everyone.
Being ๐‚reative in the here-and-now is pivotal in re-energising and engaging people around you.
Slowing down is equally crucial.
When people listen to each other, they do their best thinking, by surfacing concerns in both directions.
Subsequently, when you are really โ€œpresentโ€ and โ€œlandโ€ in the moment by addressing what matters most, experience has taught me that new unseen possibilities emerge and come into view.
So, what does all this mean for you and me?
Simply stated, a single conversation can potentially open or shut a door on a whole new future that can help us to become more conscious of how we talk with one another.
Choose to be present today and for a while, give someone your undivided attention.
How do you ๐‚/๐ฌ๐ž๐ž things?

Faith precedes the Miracle

๐๐ฅ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ ๐‡๐š๐ซ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ 
Over the course of the last 2 years, we have made many friends in Belgium and the Netherlands.
One of my new dear friends, is Melina. With her husband Michiel, they run a farm where they grow sugarbeets, wheat, Belgian endives and onions.
I love reading their posts on Facebook and Instagram.
In my personal study this morning, I got to thinking about planting and harvesting.
There is if you will, in planting and harvesting a design, a method, a sequence, a system, an order, a pattern.
Itโ€™s a simple one.
๐–๐ž ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐ง๐ญ, ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ.
Mingled with lots and lots of hard work in between.
And so, it is with ๐Ÿ๐š๐ข๐ญ๐ก.

Faith precedes the Miracle

In his book Faith Precedes the Miracle, Spencer W. Kimball taught; โ€œIn faith we plant the seed, and soon we see the miracles of the blossoming. Men have often misunderstood and have reversed the process. They would have the harvest ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† the planting, the reward ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† the service, the miracle ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† the faith. Even the most demanding labour unions would hardly ask the wages before the labour. But many of us would have the vigour without observing the health laws, prosperity through the opened windows of heaven without the payment of our tithes. We would have the close communion with our Father without fasting and praying; we would have the rain in due season and peace in the land without observing the Sabbath and keeping the other commandments of the Lord. We would pluck the rose before planting the roots; we would harvest the grain before sowing and cultivating.โ€
Melina and Michiel are amongst some of the hardest working people I know.
They understand that faith is a principle of action and power.
Although faith is a gift, it must be cultured and sought after until it grows from one tiny seed into a marvellous harvest.
Remember the order, through exercising our faith, first we plant, we work hard, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’ comes the harvest.
What harvests have you seen as you have exercised your faith and gone to work?

Missionary Couples

Many years ago, โ€œPresident Spencer W. Kimball encouraged those who had reared their families to sell their camper vans, leave their grandchildren behind, and, for a year or two, give their lives to the service of the Saviour Jesus Christ in the mission field.โ€ โ€“ Douglas J. Martin.
Last night we had two of our seven missionary couples at the mission home for dinner and to share our stories of service with one another.
It was the perfect combination.
A match made in heaven perhaps!
Tom and Cynthia Black, along with Dave and Shauna White.
Yes, the Blacks and the Whites!
Whenever we meet and talk with missionary couples, we are filled with love and respect for their humility and desire to serve.
Missionary couples are not expected to work at the same pace or follow the schedule of the younger missionaries.
All of our couples who serve in the Belgium Netherlands Mission are rich in Church experience and anxious to serve in a spirit of high adventure and sacrifice.
We simply love them!
Just like us, all of our couples are finding new purpose and fulfilment in their lives, and they are some of the very happiest people I know.

Service opportunities

They all serve in different capacities.
For instance, we have three couples serving in the office to look after all of the day to day needs of the missionaries; Douglas and Marcia Glauser, Gerrit and Norma VandeWal, as well as Jeff and Cathy Wagner. Their responsibilities include; Visaโ€™s, Residency Permits, Housing, Finance, Vehicles, Bicycles, Mail, Technology, etc.
Stephen and Elizabeth Edmunds serve in Communication and Government Relations at the European Parliament.
Paul and Catherine Ehlert who serve in Leeuwarden, are assigned to Member Leader support and service in the community.
Tom and Cynthia Black serve at the National Archives in Den Haag in an exciting digitization project.
Whilst Dave and Shauna White serve the Rising Generation of youth and young single adults throughout Belgium and the Netherlands.

Sitting Around?

L. Tom Perry said โ€œNow, to all you great couples who are hearing my voice today, I want you to listen especially to these words. Life has been hard. I know that. You have worked diligently for the security you now enjoy. You have struggled, reared a family, and saved something to have and to enjoy during this golden period of your life. But just sitting around will not give you what you really desire. Climax these golden years with the soul-satisfying experience of full-time gospel service. I hear you stand and bear your testimonies, acknowledging your love for your companion and for the gospel. If that is really true, you will be like Andrew or Alma — not content until you have shared the fulfilment you have found in the gospel of Jesus Christ in missionary service.โ€
Are you looking for a new adventure?
Is it time to sell your camper van?

United we stand, divided we fall

โ€œ๐”๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐, ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅโ€
It is a familiar phrase, used to express unity and collaboration.
Meaning โ€“ if we donโ€™t stand together, ultimately, we will not succeed.
It is a phrase that has been used throughout history to inspire and lift couples, groups, teams, political parties, countries and many more.
Biblically, in Matthew 12:25 and also in Luke 11:17, the scriptures convey the common message that a house divided against itself will not stand.
In modern culture, J.K. Rowling uses a variation of the phrase in Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, when Albus Dumbledore says, โ€œWe are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.โ€
The Bundle of Sticks
I love the moral of this story.
โ€œAN OLD man on the point of death summoned his sons around him to give them some parting advice. He ordered his servants to bring in a bundle of sticks and said to his eldest son: โ€œBreak it.โ€ The son strained and strained, but with all his efforts was unable to break the bundle. The other sons also tried, but none of them was successful. โ€œUntie the bundle,โ€ said the father, โ€œand each of you take a stick.โ€ When they had done so, he called out to them: โ€œNow, break it,โ€ and each stick was easily broken. โ€œYou see my meaning,โ€ said their father.โ€
๐‘ผ๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’†๐’… ๐’˜๐’† ๐’”๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’…, ๐’…๐’Š๐’—๐’Š๐’…๐’†๐’… ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‡๐’‚๐’๐’.
Recently D. Todd Christofferson said regarding unity, that โ€œโ€ฆwe cannot be one unless we all bend our efforts to the common cause.โ€
The common cause could be in the home, in our marriages, in our missionary companionships, in our workplaces, or in our teams.
He went on to say that โ€œโ€ฆ unity does not require sameness, but it does require harmony.โ€
David O. McKay taught โ€œUnity, harmony, goodwill are virtues to be fostered and cherished in every home.โ€
I accept that unity of ideals and purpose is often hard to achieve.
So how do we build that unity, that harmony with one another?
My favourite piece of counsel and direction comes from Gordon B. Hinckley, he said โ€œsomehow forgiveness, with love and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.โ€
For all of us in life, there comes a time to confront ourselves with ourselves โ€“ it is a compulsory part of learning and growing.
A time when each of us may have to concede the error of our ways and pride gives ways to humility.
We move forward by standing together, talking together, listening together, working together, serving together, sharing together and by doing good together.
Amid all the hardships of human life, if we can understand a little more of the principle of unity and establish it in our heartsโ€ฆ then our homes, our marriages, our communities and our workplaces, will be much more harmonious.
If you were to explain unity to someone, what would you say?

Anxious About Something?

Everyone will experience anxiety feelings from time to time – its a normal human emotion!
However – “too much anxious opening of the oven door and the cake falls instead of rising. So it is with us. If we are always selfishly taking our own temperatures to see if we are happy, we will not be.” – Neal A Maxwell.
So – what can I do to change?
In recent coaching discussions and from experience – its wise to slow down a little and pay close attention to what youโ€™re thinking!
Doubtful, fearful, negative, unrealistic, or self-critical thoughts can trigger anxiety.
Stop what you’re doing for a while, sit still, close your eyes, and breathe deeply.
Make a firm commitment to focus on healthy, positive, determined and realistic thinking.
What can you do to leave the oven door closed today?

Priesthood Keys

Yesterday, I travelled to Frankfurt in Germany, to meet with Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, along with Elder Carl B. Cook of the Presidency of the Seventy and our own Area Presidency.
Priesthood Leaders from all-over Europe gathered together for instruction and an opportunity to counsel with one another.
The meeting lasted for 4 hours.
There were no prepared talks.
It was a simple gathering.
The counsel, discussion and instruction flowed by the power of the holy ghost.
A few key themes emerged.
One of which was ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐Š๐ž๐ฒ๐ฌ.

Priesthood Keys

Elder Bednar taught some important principles.
Take a look at the picture above at the “House of the Lord” in Friedrichsdorf. Youโ€™ll recognise a few familiar faces.
How many people in the picture below hold priesthood keys?

Who holds keys?

Priesthood keys are held by Temple presidents, mission presidents, stake presidents, district presidents, bishops, branch presidents, and quorum presidents hold priesthood keys of presidency.
Our Area Seventy Elder Joep Boom does not hold priesthood keys. He acts by โ€œdelegated authority.โ€
Just as a counsellor can act by the authority of the keys of the Stake President, so a Seventy can act by the Authority of the keys of the Apostles when they are sent under their direction.
The temple president does not hold the keys for temple work. He holds the keys for the work in the temple. The stake president holds the keys for temple work in his stake.

Missionary Work

Elder Bednar taught there is a difference between the keys for missionary work and keys for the work of missionaries.
The stake president has the keys to direct missionary work in his stake. The primary work of members in missionary work as directed by the keys of the Stake President is to find and prepare people to be taught by the missionaries.
The mission president has the keys for the work of the missionaries in teaching and preparing investigators to be baptized.
As Mission President, my key question to ward and stake leaders has always been, โ€œwhat can we as missionaries do to help you fulfil your missionary responsibilities?โ€
I learned that when priesthood keys are aligned properly, when members and full-time missionaries work together in unity and harmony, then the work is blessed by heaven in a powerful way.
Daily, it is my experience as Mission President, that priesthood keys allow you to think, to see, to say and to feel things that you just normally would not think, see, say or feel. And yes, it is a sacred honour every day, to serve.
In what ways are you blessed by priesthood keys?