Echoes of Dad’s Love

And just like that…
In the blink of an eye…
It’s been twenty years, since his passing on 16th January 2005.
Yesterday, we gathered to honour the memory of our dad.
“Giant Jacky” – as he was fondly known.
Mum is moving a little slower, her eyesight a little dimmer, but nevertheless, the matriarch of our clan, stoically presses forward, loved by so many.
The memories shared once more were special.
At the graveside, Paul shared about why the burial plot was secured in earshot of the railway line.
Mum even shared a new story about a poem dad had written for her, that she found after he’d passed to the other side of the veil.
It was a sweet recollection of his poetry prowess.
We miss him.
Many miss him.
Being together.
Laughing together.
Storytelling together.
Eating together.
His legacy of love, humour, and faith lives on through each of us.
As we reminisced, we were reminded that the influence of a great father never truly fades.
Do you have a special memory perhaps of “Jacky”.
If you knew him, we’d love to hear your story about him.
Please share, it would be lovely to hear it…

Pearls of Wisdom

Yesterday, Monic and I had a rather interesting and refreshing experience at Marchmont Dental Practice in Edinburgh, where our talented niece Sara works.
Some months ago, we made an appointment to trial a new system.
We went for an Airflow clean, a procedure carried out by Sara.
As I understand it, the Airflow technology works by emitting a powerful, yet precise jet of air, water, and fine powder to thoroughly clean our teeth.
The process was surprisingly fun and, more importantly, very effective.
Sara’s skilful approach, coupled with her warm and reassuring manner, made the entire experience both pleasant and at the same time quite educational!
She explained each step of the procedure clearly, putting us both completely at ease.
Dentists aren’t our favourite thing!
The results?
Brilliant!
Our teeth now feel cleaner, brighter, and remarkably smooth.
Reflecting upon yesterday, I couldn’t help but consider the lesson this procedure taught me.
The Airflow clean reminded me that careful, focused effort produces the best results.
Much like this procedure, life requires us to slow down, make careful adjustments, and focus on the task at hand.
It’s tempting to rush through things or seek shortcuts, but just as Sara’s meticulous work ensured a great outcome for our teeth, our best successes often come when we approach challenges with precision, patience, and attention to detail.
And just like our time with Sara, the process can be enjoyable when we engage fully in the moment.
Whether it’s work, relationships, or personal goals, taking a little extra time to focus and adjust carefully can make all the difference.
And who knows?
You might even find some fun and joy in the process!
What area of your life could use a ‘clean and polish’ to make it shine?

Are you following me?

My dear friend, Paul and I have a few things in common…
We were both born and raised in Dunfermline.
We both got married to someone from abroad.
We both have three children.
We both work in learning and development.
We both served in the England London Mission of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints 
We both served as Bishop of the Dunfermline Ward.
We both served as President of the Dundee Scotland Stake, me 2005 – 2014 and Paul currently.

Chance Encounters

And if the last few Saturday mornings are anything to go by, we both enjoy walking to fulfil our church Ministering assignments at the very same time!
As we’ve crossed paths in virtually the same spot these last few weeks, it’s become a bit of a running joke.
“𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏? 𝑨𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒆, 𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒎 𝑰 𝒇𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖?”
These chance encounters have added a touch of humour and a smile to our faces in our shared commitment to serve others.
Whilst he is heading north, I am heading south!
Ministering has always held a special place in both of our hearts.
There’s something deeply rewarding about reaching out to others, offering a listening ear, a kind word, or simply letting someone know they’re remembered and loved.
It’s not just a duty; it’s a privilege – a way to follow the Saviour’s example of service and compassion.
We both share a passion for this work.
Even now, as it is his turn to carry the mantle of Stake President, his dedication to these simple but significant acts of care is inspiring.
We both know that real joy in ministering comes not from grand gestures, but from consistent, small acts of love and service.
And yet, life has a way of adding a touch of humour to even the most heartfelt endeavours.
It’s a light-hearted reminder that ministering doesn’t have to be stiff or overly formal, it’s about connection, warmth, and even a good laugh along the way.
As I reflect on these moments, I feel a deep sense of gratitude for Paul, for his leadership, friendship, and example.
Serving alongside him in this way reminds me that ministering is more than a responsibility; it’s a joyful journey we share together, one visit at a time.
What small acts of love and service have brought a smile to your face lately?

Warm Hearts, Cold Days.

Weeks in the planning, Raymond, Paul, Mike, and I set off for the temple in Preston last Tuesday, for three days away together.
It was a journey that proved to be both heartwarming and nostalgic, taking us down memory lane to recall much simpler times of a bygone era.
The trip had its roots in an initial conversation between Raymond and me several weeks ago.
What began as a casual chat, eventually grew into a plan, culminating in our journey this week.
For Raymond, it had been several years since he was last able to visit the temple, between covid times and health challenges keeping him away.

Planning & Logistics

After lengthy discussions with staff at his care home and with other family members, we were delighted to receive the green light to proceed.
However, the logistics required no small amount of effort.
Booking a specialist vehicle, arranging disabled accommodation at the temple, obtaining the necessary recommendations, and figuring out his care requirements were all hurdles we had to overcome.
Add to that the bitterly cold, freezing temperatures and the challenge of manoeuvring Raymond and his wheelchair into the back of the accessible vehicle, proved quite the operation!
Yet somehow, we managed it all.

The Rewards

The reward was three days of service in the temple, filled with gentle camaraderie and timeless moments that felt truly idyllic.

We certainly liked to tease one another – a lot!
Being at the temple and the shared purpose brought a sense of peace and togetherness that was both comforting and uplifting.
As we ministered to one another, sharing acts of love and kindness, I was reminded of Galatians 6:2, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”
The experience was a wonderful reminder of the power of friendship, careful planning, and staying young at heart despite life’s challenges.
This trip wasn’t just about the temple, on reflection it was also about the bonds between us.
Through witty banter, shared memories, and quiet reflections, we experienced a kind of cheerful resilience and a reminder of what truly matters in life.
It was charming, heartwarming, and an experience that we’ll treasure for years to come.
What cherished memories or moments of ministering have brought you joy and strengthened your bonds with others?

The Power of Focused Attention

Yesterday, I returned to my management consulting work for my first full day this year.

I was happy to get back!

It felt great to re-engage and, more importantly, to make real progress by focusing my attention on what truly mattered.

The day began with a simple yet powerful step: creating an action list.

I carefully prioritised the tasks that absolutely needed to be accomplished and directed my energy there.

To maintain my focus and clear my mind, Monic suggested I go alone and take an hour-long walk through the park.

The crisp winter chilly air and natural surroundings worked wonders, refreshing my thoughts and preparing me for the day ahead.

This deliberate focus transformed my day.

As I worked, distractions and interference seemed to fade into the background.

I was fully present in the moment, and the results spoke for themselves, with clear progress and a deep sense of productivity.

One moment particularly stood out during a call with a new client.

I listened intently, giving my full attention to every word.

By focusing deeply, I was able to engage meaningfully, ask the right questions, and gain a clear understanding of their specific needs.

Focus, I’ve realised, is more than just paying attention; it’s a disciplined effort to direct your energy and concentration to the task at hand.

With moments of clarity and intention, like my walk in the park, I know we can unlock our ability to achieve more, engage deeply, and truly make a difference.

What actions do you take to stay focused and clear your mind for a productive day?

Habits that shape us

As 2025 begins, I’ve been considering the habits I’ve developed over the years – the small, steady practices that have shaped who I am today.
Daily journaling, something I began decades ago, has grown into something far more meaningful, even inspiring me to finish my book this year.
It reminds me that the smallest, most consistent actions can lead to unexpected and fulfilling results.
This year feels like an opportunity to build on those routines and make them even more purposeful.
Our daily walks, for instance, could become a time for deeper reflection, meaningful conversations and they’re certainly helping me prepare for the West Highland Way’s 96 miles in May!
I think my writing could even evolve into exploring new forms.
For instance more storytelling or allowing creativity to stretch me in new directions – poetry perhaps!
As we slow down and notice our positive habits, they seem to have a way of growing with us.
What starts as a small step, making time for gratitude, connecting with others, or simply being in the moment and present, can compound over time, shaping our lives in powerful ways.
What good habits or productive practices have shaped your life in recent years?
As you look ahead to 2025, how might you take them further or adapt them to your current needs?
I’d love to hear what’s worked for you – your journey might just inspire someone else to start theirs…

The LinkedIn Miracle

On 9th December, I embarked on a journey from Edinburgh to Salt Lake City, Utah, via JFK Airport in New York.
Whilst passing through the security area in JFK, somehow another passenger inadvertently picked up my laptop from the security belt, leaving their own behind.
What unfolded in the next hour in JFK was straight out of a Laurel & Hardy film – chaotic, disorganised, and entirely frustrating.
Consumed by a sense of helplessness, the ensuing 5-hour flight to Salt Lake City was a sombre one for me.
In my mind, I replayed the scene, dwelling on the laptop loss and the vital work it contained.
As the days passed, I grew more discouraged.

The Power of Prayer

Yet I, along with a few others, prayed fervently, asking for a miracle.
By day three, without any word, I began filling out insurance forms, resigned to the fact that my laptop (containing critical information for my book) was gone – it was a hopeless situation.
Seconds later, out of the blue, I received a LinkedIn message:
“Hi, did you lose your laptop at the airport?”
My heart leapt and I quickly responded, “Yes!”
What followed was an extraordinary exchange with a complete stranger from Spain who had mistakenly taken my laptop.
My new friend shared that 9th December had been a particularly difficult, stress-filled day.
After returning to Spain, she realised her error when she opened the laptop.
There, she found my name and photo and decided to search for me on the professional social networking site LinkedIn.
26 days later, it’s back in my own hands.
I am so thankful for my new friend, whose integrity and willingness to correct her mistake has restored my faith in humanity once more.
The experience has reminded me too of the story of the Good Samaritan.
Amid life’s uncertainties, good people often show up unexpectedly, offering kindness and generosity.
Like the Samaritan, my new friend didn’t let her difficult circumstances stop her from doing the right thing.
Her choice reminded me that the world is full of “Good Samaritans,” quietly making it better through their small yet meaningful acts of kindness.
What small acts of kindness can we perform today to brighten someone else’s path?
You never know whose prayers you might just answer…

Holy Oats!

Arising early, there is an icy chill in the air.
It’s a sure sign that winter has arrived.
I love my morning ritual of preparing my porridge oats…
Porridge is one of the healthiest ways to start your day.
Weighing 55 grams of good quality oats, I then add 325ml of creamy oat milk.
Soaking the oats to allow them to soften and absorb the milk for a while, is key.
Then, I place the mixture over a gentle heat, stirring continuously with a wooden spoon, allowing the porridge to warm and bubble.
I’ve learned that the simmering unlocks the full flavour of the porridge.
It’s a slow and steady process that cannot be rushed.
The result, as the oats and milk gradually become one, they transform into a creamy delicious porridge.
A sprinkling of fruit, then a drizzle of maple syrup adds the final touch, creating a warming and satisfying dish.
Shock, horror, agog – “no salt!!?” – I hear my fellow Scots shout!
There are few things more comforting than a steaming bowl of Scots porridge oats!
I love it!
I’ve found, that a well-made bowl of porridge somehow brings me real satisfaction and energy for the day ahead.
Just as porridge fills and warms me right through on a chilly winter’s morning, I know that Christ’s love and His light sustains, warms and nourishes our souls, especially as our focus returns to Him during the Christmas season.
I know too, that a well-lived life centred on Jesus Christ brings joy and purpose that can carry us through all seasons, even the coldest and darkest of winter days.
It’s my experience that when the warmth of His light stirs within us, slowly but surely, we can all become more like Him.
Likewise, as my morning porridge warms me through, Christ’s light warms the soul, lifting our spirits and spreading peace, hope and joy.
Just as the simmering slowly transforms oats into something nourishing, His light refines and strengthens us daily.
What small daily rituals help you feel sustained and uplifted, both physically and spiritually?

Faith at Work

Yesterday, I enjoyed catching up with some old colleagues and making some new friends in a virtual café for Fellows of the Association for Coaching.
There was an instant blend of warmth, trust, and camaraderie.
Our shared values and collective openness allowed us to learn and grow together.
The smiles, the attentive nods, the laughter, and the genuine curious interest in one another’s thoughts created a strong sense of belonging.
Some topics for our breakout rooms were suggested and off we went to share our thoughts.
I suggested a current topic at the forefront of my mind “faith friendly workplaces”.
What followed in the next 35 minutes was one of the most insightful and powerful coaching conversations I’ve ever had.
I am truly thankful for Tom Hennessy for his intuitive and penetrating questioning skills.
From the outset, he tuned into my thinking as I shared my experiences of an event I’d attended the day before.

Religious Freedom

At that event, I’d engaged with a diverse group of leaders, advocates, and thinkers who were passionate about the intersection of religious freedom and business.
Hosted by Louise Bailey of OVO, the gathering highlighted the vital role that workplaces play in fostering an environment where faith can be expressed openly and respectfully.
Brian J. Grim of the Religious Freedom and Business Foundation, shared his perspective on how recognising and respecting employees’ faith identities can enrich any workplace culture.
His stories underscored the importance of seeing faith as an integral part of diversity, just as important as race, gender, or any other characteristic.
The event also reminded me that creating faith-friendly workplaces wasn’t just about accommodating faith; it’s about empowering individuals to bring their whole selves to work.
Further, it’s about creating an environment where people feel seen, heard, and valued, not despite their faith but because of the richness it adds to who they are.
As I further reflected upon the conversations at the event, I realised how closely they align with the work I’m passionate about.
Coaching, after all, is about creating safe spaces for people to explore and grow.
If workplaces can become those safe spaces, where faith is acknowledged and respected, it could transform not just individual lives but entire organisational cultures.
Now, I have my work cut out as I consider how to bring my learning and coaching knowledge to this vital cause.
How can we foster workplaces that embrace faith as part of diversity?
It’s a challenge I’m eager to explore, and one I invite you to consider too.

 

From Birth to Rebirth

On 26th November 1999, at 3:02 am, Monic gave birth to our daughter Megan, 28 days early, a precious gift, she has forever altered the rhythm of our lives.
Twenty-five years later, on 26th November 2024, at 3:30 am, Megan brought her own firstborn child, Oscar, into the world, 12 days late.
Reflecting on this extraordinary overlap of life’s moments, of shared birthdays, made me reflect yet again on God’s providence.

Gospel Parallels

With this profound connection I want to invite you to reflect on the miracle of physical birth and its parallel, the transformative gift of spiritual rebirth through the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Birth itself is a remarkable miracle.
It is the culmination of waiting, preparing, and trusting in God’s perfect design.
Just last week, I wrote about Megan’s experience of waiting for Oscar’s arrival, likening it to the gospel principle of trusting in the Lord’s timing.
The Scriptures repeatedly remind us that God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9) and that His plans unfold precisely as they should.
This shared birthday between Megan and Oscar is more than mere coincidence; it’s a divine reminder of the intricate weaving of our lives into God’s eternal tapestry, God-incidence.
As Megan transitions into motherhood, she enters a new season of selflessness, love, and spiritual growth.
For us as grandparents (Oma and Grandad), Oscar’s arrival highlights a legacy of faith, a continuation of priesthood promises, sealed through generations of time.
Holding this perfect little boy in our arms was simply beautiful and joyful!

Rebirth

The timing of Oscar’s birth also echoes the promise of rebirth offered through Jesus Christ.
While physical birth brings us into mortality, spiritual rebirth through covenant living and the grace of God prepares us for eternity.
Christ Himself taught, “Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God” (John 3:5).
Just as Megan has given Oscar the gift of life, our Heavenly Father offers us the ultimate gift: the chance to be born again through Christ’s atonement, to become new creatures in Him (2 Corinthians 5:17).
These moments of birth, and the spiritual parallels they draw, urge us to prepare for the ultimate reunion with our Heavenly Father.
Reflecting on the miracle of birth, may we also renew our commitment to the miracle of rebirth.
For in Christ, we find the fulfilment of every promise, the redemption of every waiting season, and the joy of eternal life.
What moments in your life have shown you God’s timing and the hope of spiritual rebirth?