The keyboard cat

Since returning home a few months ago, we’ve inherited our daughter Cristi’s cat, while she completes her university studies in Edinburgh.
It’s been quite an adjustment for me, as I am definitely not much of a cat lover.
This week, the cat (Blue) has taken an extra special liking to my office for some reason.
A couple of days ago, he decided to perch himself – quite disruptively, right in front of me on my keyboard!
Admittedly, I became annoyed, and a little frustrated by Blue, as I had things to do!
Reflecting upon that moment, I realised that there was a lesson to be had from this persistent feline, about personal development: how we respond to disruption, can shape our growth.
And since coming home – we have experienced a lot of disruption!
In coaching, I encourage clients to reframe their challenges and look at things from a different perspective.
Disruptions, just like Blue sprawled across my keyboard, can seem like an obstacle.
Yet, they present an unexpected opportunity to pause, reassess, and refocus.
Instead of getting annoyed, I asked myself: What’s the lesson here?
Blue reminded me (again) that life rarely goes as planned, and sometimes the best response is to simply adapt with patience and creativity.
Blue, indifferent to my to-do list, brought me back to the moment.
He reminded me to slow down, breathe, and appreciate the present, even if it wasn’t the one I had planned.
Life often brings unexpected interruptions.
When we embrace them, stay present, and set healthy boundaries, we can create space for growth.
So, when life places a “cat” on your keyboard, pause, reflect, and adapt.
You might discover a lesson you didn’t know you needed.
What unexpected “disruption” in your life has taught you a valuable lesson?

Turning to the Light

Yesterday, I had the privilege of facilitating a couple of learning workshops with young adults (18-35 years old) from across Scotland and Ireland.
They had gathered for a three-day weekend conference at the Preston Temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Chorley.
The theme of the weekend was Light the Temple, and I was invited to share experiences from our time serving as Mission Leaders in Belgium and the Netherlands.
For the workshops, I chose the title: Turning Toward the Light – How Missionary Service Changes Us.
And it truly does!
The two one-hour sessions were experiential learning feasts, filled with hands-on activities, meaningful discussions, and plenty of laughter.
From role-playing missionary experiences to heartfelt personal stories, the room was alive with energy, enthusiasm, and faith.
There was something special about being together, learning, sharing, and even laughing about the unique and often humorous moments that come through missionary service.
As missionaries, we strive to follow the Saviour’s example in Acts 10:38 – going about “doing good.”
And in doing so, we are changed.
There were four key learning takeaways:
We become…
• Changed for Good
• Fluent in Discipleship
• Closer to Him
• Builders of His Kingdom
It was an absolute joy to spend time with these incredible young people.
Their testimonies, their light, and their laughter filled the room with a spirit of unity and purpose.
Being with them reminded me of how turning toward Christ shapes not just our missions, but our entire lives.
How has turning to Him changed you?

Treading Water?

Returning home a few months ago has been an opportunity for lots of deep reflection, causing me to review a couple of key questions.
What do the next ten years look like?
Where am I really heading before retirement?
Recently, I was in a deep conversation with a dear friend.
He mentioned a phrase that really resonated with me.
He said “It sounds like you are just 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫…”
I discovered the phrase has a couple of meanings.
Firstly, it means “to float vertically in the water by moving the legs and the arms up and down.”
It’s a survival skill and it’s definitely not sustainable for too long.
Secondly, “not to be advancing in any way” suggesting lots of continuous effort, yet with little forward momentum.
In essence, its lots of hard work, expending energy, yet, remaining static and I could relate to that.
Have you found yourself in this sort of space before, hoping that you are doing all the right things, but not feeling any progress?
Does it look like this?
• 𝑹𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒕𝒉 – Feeling like every day is similar to the last, with no real forward movement.
• 𝑬𝒇𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒄𝒍𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒚 – Working hard but unsure whether it’s leading anywhere meaningful.
• 𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒊𝒕𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 – Engaged in things, yet wondering if the time and energy is truly well spent.
So, what can you do when you sense you’re treading water?
1. 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐡𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐦 – Instead of just keeping things going, consider new ways of thinking, working, or living.
2. 𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 – It’s hard to measure progress, if you don’t have a clear direction. So, what does real movement look like for you?
3. 𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐡, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 – Sometimes, we need to dive deeper rather than push harder. Learning, reflection, and seeking inspiration can unlock new paths.
4. 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 – Not all movement is visible, I’ve learned to be patient. Some seasons prepare us quietly for what’s next.
If you feel like you’re treading water, ask yourself: 𝑰𝒔 𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒘𝒊𝒎 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒏𝒆𝒘 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏?
The answer might just change everything…

Scheduling with Heart

I enjoy a large network of people, including coaching & business clients, colleagues, and many friends all around the world.
Subsequently, my calendar is always buzzing with something!
Scheduling, it seems, is a constant daily ritual for me.
I’m always Juggling time zones, priorities, and opportunities to maintain my meaningful and important connections.
Yet, there’s one thing I’m determined to keep old-school: 𝑰 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒍 𝒎𝒚 𝒄𝒂𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒓!
While automated scheduling tools are all the rage these days, I prefer a much more personal touch.
I always seem to have competing priorities, yet for me, every meeting is unique, and I like the flexibility to decide when and where I meet someone.
Plus, I am constantly aware of Monic’s calendar too.
It’s not about efficiency, it’s more about intention.
Here are a few of my own tips for managing your schedule with heart:
1. 𝐂𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐛𝐮𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐳𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬: I try hard never to pack my day back-to-back. Allowing breathing spaces between calls are golden and absolutely essential.
2. 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐳𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬: Connecting across the globe requires some care. A little planning can turn a logistical headache into a pleasant experience.
3. 𝐔𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 “𝐲𝐞𝐬” 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐲: It’s often tempting to say yes to every meeting, but clarity on priorities helps me keep my calendar purposeful.
4. 𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 “𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡-𝐮𝐩” 𝐬𝐥𝐨𝐭𝐬: I block out times specifically for reconnecting with friends and colleagues, which really helps to keep key relationships thriving!
Scheduling isn’t just logistics; for me it’s also about relationships.
Whether it’s a coaching session or a catch-up call, each meeting represents an opportunity to connect.
How do you manage your calendar?
Are you a fan of online schedulers, or do you prefer a more hands-on approach?
I’d love to hear your stories, tips, or even some of those scheduling mishaps!

Revisiting the Vineyard

Family and business matters took Monic and me back to Belgium and the Netherlands this week.
It’s been over six months since we were last there together, and it felt like coming home – even more so for Monic!
With the kind permission of the new mission leaders, we were able to spend a little time visiting some of our former missionaries who are still serving in the countries.
What a reunion it was!
The air was filled with laughter, the sharing of stories, a few tears of joy, and, of course, countless warm hugs.
It was a moment to cherish and one that reminded us of the deep bonds of friendship and love, formed through our shared service.
Seeing everyone again was more than just a pleasant visit, it was a time to reflect and reminisce.
We recounted the countless memories we had shared: spiritual milestones, hard-fought lessons, and small victories that had brought us all closer to each other and the Saviour.
These young people taught us so much about resilience, faith, and the joy of missionary work.

Growth

It was a privilege to see how much they had grown and to be reminded of the lasting impact of the gospel.
As I reflected on the special relationships formed during those years, Paul’s words in Philippians came to mind: “I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, Always in every prayer of mine for you all making request with joy, For your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now” (Philippians 1:3-5).
How fitting this scripture is to capture the joy and gratitude of reconnecting with those who have been a huge part of such a meaningful chapter in our lives.
Special times like these are extremely rare and very precious.
They remind us of the eternal nature of the relationships we build through service and the joy that comes from working together in the vineyard of the Lord.
What memories or connections have brought you the greatest joy recently?
How have they strengthened your faith or reminded you of the Lord’s hand in your life?

Weathering Life’s Storms

Storm Éowyn swept across Scotland and Ireland yesterday.
Walking through Dunfermline’s Public Park this morning, I saw lots of evidence of fallen trees.
Some uprooted trees had shallow roots, lacking depth.
I wondered if they’d have withstood the storm had their roots been deeper.
Similarly, each of us faces life’s winds and storms.
When adversity strikes, are you prepared to endure?
Seedlings fall, but only some flourish and grow into mighty trees.
Growth requires time, effort, perseverance, setbacks and adaptation.
“But unlike trees, we can choose to deliberately develop the spiritual root structure for our lives. We decide where to set our roots and how deeply to sink them into the soil. Daily decisions make tiny, almost imperceptible differences in the roots of our faith, the effect of which becomes foundational,” says L. Whitney Clayton.
In the Book of Mormon, Alma likened the word of God to a seed and spoke of nourishing its growth into a tree:
“And behold, as the tree beginneth to grow, ye will say: Let us nourish it with great care, that it may get root, that it may grow up, and bring forth fruit unto us. And now behold, if ye nourish it with much care it will get root, and grow up, and bring forth fruit.
But if ye neglect the tree, and take no thought for its nourishment, behold it will not get any root; and when the heat of the sun cometh and scorcheth it, because it hath no root it withers away, and ye pluck it up and cast it out.” (Alma 32:37-38.)
I testify that as we weather life’s storms, we are strengthened by learning of Jesus Christ.
Rooting ourselves deeply in His gospel and exercising faith in Him will fortify us against life’s winds and storms.
What steps can you take today to deepen your spiritual roots and prepare for the storms ahead?

Lines that define

Recently whilst working with a business client, we explored the concept of personal boundaries or the red lines we draw for ourselves and are unwilling to cross, even in the most difficult of situations.
The values that define our boundaries protect our well-being and even guide our decisions.
Boundaries can often reflect our deepest principles and non-negotiables.
They shape how we interact with others and help us navigate the challenges we face.
To bring this to life, we engaged in a few activities about boundaries.
We’d already created a psychologically safe space for everyone to share in our learning session.
Participants were asked to visualise a scenario where their boundaries had been tested, a moment when they felt uneasy, conflicted, or even compromised.
They were then invited to reflect: where did they draw the line?
Many chose to share their experiences openly with the group.
Did they stand firm, or did they allow others to cross that line?
The conversations that followed were eye-opening.
People shared how recognising and honouring their boundaries had empowered them, strengthened relationships, and brought clarity in difficult situations.
Others admitted how, at times, they had failed to assert their limits, leading to regret or frustration.
Understanding your own boundaries requires courage, self-awareness, and sometimes, a willingness to say “no.”
So, where do you draw the line?
How do your boundaries reflect who you are and what you stand for?
And, most importantly, how do you ensure those boundaries are respected?

Miles for Meals

For a long time, I’ve wanted to walk the 96 miles of the West Highland Way in Scotland.
Over the years I’ve been inspired by many friends who have already walked the Way.
I’m not get any younger, and in a few months’ time I’ll be turning 60.
So, it was time to make the plans and the effort to go and do!

Marys Meals

Yesterday, I laced up my walking boots, put on my Mary’s Meals t-shirt and put in some more training miles…
Commencing 27th May 2025, I’ll be walking the West Highland Way with circa 25 returned missionaries that I served alongside in the Belgium Netherlands Mission of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints between 2021 and 2024.
They’re all travelling from thousands of miles away at their own cost, to journey with me.
Together, we’re not just embarking on a physical challenge; we’re walking with purpose to raise funds for Mary’s Meals, an organisation that provides millions of children with life-changing meals every day.
As a Christian, I’ve always endeavoured to follow the example of Jesus Christ.

Doing Good

Just like Jesus “went about doing good,” (Acts 10:38), Mary’s Meals follows that same Christlike example, serving millions of children with love and compassion.
By feeding hungry children, they enable them to attend school and build a brighter future.
It’s humbling to think that our steps along the rugged paths of the West Highland Way can play a small part in such a significant cause.
Walking too, has always been a powerful metaphor for life’s journey.
Each step, no matter how small, brings us closer to a greater purpose.
As we walk, we’ll face steep climbs and rocky descents, and the uncertainty of the ever-changing weather, but these challenges mirror the struggles faced by those we are striving to support.
Our efforts, combined with faith and determination, can make a difference.
I invite you to join us in this effort, whether by donating to Mary’s Meals, or finding your own ways to serve others.
Look out for our social media posts in the days ahead too, where you’ll be able to sponsor and donate to this worthwhile cause.
As you lace up your own shoes this week, whether for work, worship, or service, why not consider how you might walk with purpose.
Every step counts, and together, we can make the journey meaningful.
What small steps can you take this week to “go about doing good” in the lives of those around you?

Echoes of Dad’s Love

And just like that…
In the blink of an eye…
It’s been twenty years, since his passing on 16th January 2005.
Yesterday, we gathered to honour the memory of our dad.
“Giant Jacky” – as he was fondly known.
Mum is moving a little slower, her eyesight a little dimmer, but nevertheless, the matriarch of our clan, stoically presses forward, loved by so many.
The memories shared once more were special.
At the graveside, Paul shared about why the burial plot was secured in earshot of the railway line.
Mum even shared a new story about a poem dad had written for her, that she found after he’d passed to the other side of the veil.
It was a sweet recollection of his poetry prowess.
We miss him.
Many miss him.
Being together.
Laughing together.
Storytelling together.
Eating together.
His legacy of love, humour, and faith lives on through each of us.
As we reminisced, we were reminded that the influence of a great father never truly fades.
Do you have a special memory perhaps of “Jacky”.
If you knew him, we’d love to hear your story about him.
Please share, it would be lovely to hear it…

Pearls of Wisdom

Yesterday, Monic and I had a rather interesting and refreshing experience at Marchmont Dental Practice in Edinburgh, where our talented niece Sara works.
Some months ago, we made an appointment to trial a new system.
We went for an Airflow clean, a procedure carried out by Sara.
As I understand it, the Airflow technology works by emitting a powerful, yet precise jet of air, water, and fine powder to thoroughly clean our teeth.
The process was surprisingly fun and, more importantly, very effective.
Sara’s skilful approach, coupled with her warm and reassuring manner, made the entire experience both pleasant and at the same time quite educational!
She explained each step of the procedure clearly, putting us both completely at ease.
Dentists aren’t our favourite thing!
The results?
Brilliant!
Our teeth now feel cleaner, brighter, and remarkably smooth.
Reflecting upon yesterday, I couldn’t help but consider the lesson this procedure taught me.
The Airflow clean reminded me that careful, focused effort produces the best results.
Much like this procedure, life requires us to slow down, make careful adjustments, and focus on the task at hand.
It’s tempting to rush through things or seek shortcuts, but just as Sara’s meticulous work ensured a great outcome for our teeth, our best successes often come when we approach challenges with precision, patience, and attention to detail.
And just like our time with Sara, the process can be enjoyable when we engage fully in the moment.
Whether it’s work, relationships, or personal goals, taking a little extra time to focus and adjust carefully can make all the difference.
And who knows?
You might even find some fun and joy in the process!
What area of your life could use a ‘clean and polish’ to make it shine?