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Is it time to move on?
Recognising that you’ve outgrown something—whether it’s a job, relationship, hobby, or even a lifestyle—can be a challenging but necessary step in personal growth.
I find we hold onto familiar things out of comfort or fear of the unknown.
Yet, life is constantly evolving, and outgrowing certain aspects of it is a natural part of this journey.
As a coach, I’ve discovered that there are some tell-tale signs that it’s time to move on.
Stagnation and Lack of Growth
One of the most common signs that you’ve outgrown something is a feeling of stagnation.
You’re no longer learning, evolving, or feeling challenged in a meaningful way, manifesting itself as boredom or frustration.
At work for instance, you might find that your tasks have become monotonous, with no opportunities for advancement or development.
Or in a relationship, it could feel like there is no deeper connection or emotional growth happening.
If you feel stagnant, it’s time to re-evaluate your goals.
Ask yourself what you really want to achieve and whether your current situation is helping you get there.
Set new goals that challenge you, and make small steps toward them.
It could mean seeking a new job, learning new skills, or communicating openly with others about what you need for growth in relationships.
Consistent Frustration or Unhappiness
When you’ve outgrown something, feelings of frustration, dissatisfaction, or even resentment often start to surface.
You may feel like you’re stuck or wasting your potential.
In relationships, this can manifest as constant arguments or feeling emotionally drained.
In a career, it can feel like you’re simply going through the motions without any real fulfilment.
If you consistently feel unhappy, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings.
My favourite is journaling, I know it can help you reflect on what’s causing these emotions.
Or with the help of a coach or friend, identify whether the frustration stems from something you can change within your current situation, or whether it’s time to move on entirely.
You may need to set boundaries or have tough conversations, or it could be time to explore new opportunities that align more with your values and passions.
You Feel Disconnected
Another sign is a growing sense of disconnection.
Things that once brought you joy, excitement, or passion may now feel empty.
You might feel like you just don’t belong.
Take time to reconnect with yourself by engaging in self-reflection and mindfulness.
Spend time figuring out what excites and energises you now.
This could mean rediscovering old passions or trying new activities.
If you feel disconnected from a social group or relationship, it may be time to seek out new connections that resonate more with who you’ve become.
Your Values or Priorities Have Changed
As we grow, our values and priorities often shift.
You may start to realise that what once mattered most no longer aligns with your current beliefs or goals.
This could happen with friendships, jobs, or even personal habits.
For instance, a career path that once seemed ideal might no longer align with your desire for work-life balance or personal fulfilment.
When your values change, it’s crucial to realign your life accordingly.
Begin by making a list of your current priorities and values.
What’s truly important to you now?
Once you have clarity on these, you can begin making decisions that align with your new values.
This might mean changing careers, pursuing more meaningful hobbies, or prioritising different relationships.
You Daydream About Something New
If you frequently find yourself daydreaming about a different job, relationship, or lifestyle, it could be a clear sign that you’ve outgrown your current situation.
These daydreams often reflect unmet desires or unfulfilled potential.
Rather than dismiss these thoughts, explore them further.
What is it that you’re yearning for?
Is it adventure, creativity, a deeper connection, or more freedom?
Once you’ve identified your desires, start taking concrete steps toward making those dreams a reality.
Research new opportunities, network with people who are in fields or lifestyles that interest you, or create a plan to gradually transition into something new.
In Conclusion
Outgrowing something is a natural part of life, and while it can feel unsettling, it’s also an opportunity for growth and renewal.
A coach can help you along your way.
By recognising the signs—stagnation, unhappiness, disconnection, shifting values, and daydreaming—you can take proactive steps to move forward.
Whether it’s setting new goals, engaging in self-reflection, or seeking new challenges, the key is to embrace change and create a life that aligns with your current self.
If you’re in that space now, message me, I’m happy to listen and help…
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Authenticity – the courage to be yourself
“That’s just not right…let me explain further…” I said to my fellow judges.
Sales Awards
Many years ago, on a number of occasions, after being a shortlisted awards finalist and runner-up myself, I was invited to be a judge on the National Sales Awards in the UK. The key part of the role was to attend an annual judging day, at a swanky hotel in London. There, all the shortlisted candidates would attend to be judged. Individuals and teams would be interviewed and considered one by one, by a small judging panel of sales industry experts in order to be considered for an award. Yes – I was classified as an expert – please don’t laugh!!
Interviews
I recall, one year when a sales team gave a very impressive presentation, it was outstanding. My fellow judges remarked on how fresh and striking it was. I quizzed the team intensely on their efforts, their preparations and quite unique ideas, seeking clarification on how they came up with the concept and how they’d developed it into a presentation for the day.
They shared their story.
Outcome
Yet, unbeknownst to the sales team, I had been a judge 2 years previously in the corresponding category, where a sales team from the same company, had given the exact, identical presentation. Something my fellow judges had thought was fresh and unique, was in fact a rehash of some ideas shared previously. Yes the presentation was outstanding, but the responses given by the sales team to my questions left me with a rather sour taste. Something wasn’t quite right, I felt we were in a sense being deceived, being played even. That’s when I then explained to my fellow judges, why I’d questioned the team so directly, seeking clarification, the way I had.
After all that was said and done, the judging panel determined that the team wouldn’t make the special awards evening a few months later. Why?… Simply because they lacked genuine authenticity.
It was a powerful lesson learned for all, about the nature of truth and how it sets you free.
Never dissemble.
Authenticity is everything! It is the power to be yourself.
Touched
The energy in the room was high.
Then in a reflective moment one participant shared “I can relate to that” and tears started to flow freely.
The atmosphere changed.
We had already created a psychologically safe environment for sharing that day, but then the authenticity in the room soared to a different level.
Attentively, everyone focused on the personal story being shared.
It was a moment of high emotion and an intimate turning point in the workshop.
In opening up in such a manner the participant had taken a great risk in approaching a vulnerable area in their life by sharing it so deeply.
The silence was palpable.
Unwittingly, by speaking so candidly and tenderly, the participant had completely engaged everyone in the room.
Then it happened.
I watched, as those on either side felt impressed to reach out in a compassionate and reassuring way by physically touching our storyteller.
The whole experience had a profound effect on all of us in the room.
There was a feeling of connection, togetherness and unity for a fleeting moment in time.
Deep and meaningful learning moments come quite unexpectedly at times.
When they do, don’t be afraid to welcome them, gently explore them, embrace them and cherish them….forever.
Can you reach out and touch someone today?