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Remember to say 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞..
Not too long ago, I was reminded of some behaviours that we ought to avoid, namely, criticising, mocking or ignoring others, in other words incivility – it isn’t very pleasant.
Incivility- “rude or unsociable speech or behaviour.”
Its opposite is civility – “formal politeness and courtesy in behaviour or speech.”
Georgetown University professor Christine Porath, found that people who are civil are viewed as better leaders.
“Civility lifts people up,” she says. “We will get people to give more and function at their best if we’re civil. Incivility hijacks performance. It robs people of their potential. … When we have more civil environments, we are more productive, creative, helpful, happy and healthy. We can do better. Each one of us can lift others up.”
Far more important, are the things we do instead….
Do you use the word please?
When did you last compliment someone on a job well done?
Do you listen and seek to understand another person’s views?
How often do you give others the benefit of the doubt?
Do our words, our actions, and even the expression on our face communicate to people around us that we value and respect them?
Think what could happen in our homes, offices, classrooms, and numerous other places if we just treated others with more civility, kindness, politeness and respect.
Think what could happen to our relationships, to our health and well-being.
Yes, life is stressful and often uncivil, but we can change that – little by little – as we choose to embrace civility and simply say please.
“𝐀 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐋𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮”
There’s a tenderness comes stealingO’er this heart of mine todayAnd a warm and happy feelingThat can never fade away;Just a feeling that is growingEvery day each long year through –It’s the joy that comes through knowingThat I have a friend like you.
Round my heart are memories clingingOf the golden days of old.And they set my soul a-singingWith a happiness untold.Yes, our pulsing heart throbs, treasuredThrough the years of friendship trueMake me prize the love unmeasuredOf a good old friend like you.
Every passing day I wish youAll the joy your heart will hold;May success be always with youAs the coming years unfold.That the fast-approaching morrowsMay see all your dreams come trueAnd contain but minor sorrows,In my wish, dear friend, for you.
May our friendship grow and strengthenIn the misty years to come,So that when life’s shadows lengthenAnd our mortal race is run,We may still be friends united –Still be comrades staunch and true;That our ways may e’er be lighted,Yours by me and mine by you.
Then it happened.
And that’s the end of our first full month (already!), back home in the Netherlands.
One thing that has struck me is the importance of 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩.
We have spent a large chunk of our first month making lots of new friends and reacquainting ourselves with many old ones too.
As we have visited together, we have laughed, cried, talked, sung, enjoyed meals, walked, played games, hugged, encouraged, helped and above all really listened to one another’s stories and experiences.
It has been a real joy to be with such wonderful friends.
My experience is that all of our interactions together are made more enjoyable and productive when they are accompanied by genuine feelings of friendship.
I remember years ago the counsel from Ralph Waldo Emerson who said “𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞.”
To be a good friend, show genuine interest in others, smile, care about them, be kind, be grateful and show respect. Above all…
– 𝐁𝐞 Real
– 𝐁𝐞 You
– 𝐁𝐞 your authentic self!
Being who you are is key!
What kind of friend are you?
When you think of a generous person, who first comes to mind?
Generosity – “a willingness to give help or support, especially more than is usual or expected.”
Who has inspired you the most to greater generosity?
I hope that it won’t be some famous celebrities or philanthropists, rather it’ll be a family member, a friend, someone in the community, or a co-worker perhaps.
“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” said Debbie Macomber.
One by One.
Act by Act.
Service by Service.
Little by Little.
Each of us can make a difference.
I am encouraged by the words of the Dalai Lama who said – “Generosity is the most natural outward expression of an inner attitude of compassion and loving-kindness.”
We simply don’t talk about generosity enough.
We desperately need more men and women in society at large to look around, to look beyond themselves and consider the needs of others. To become more selfless, outward looking, to give more, to be more compassionate and much, much more generous. Some will think it airy-fairy. Yet, it is a powerful, personal, potent, peace giving potion.
What can you do, who will you help today?