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Time is Life

๐“๐ข๐ฆ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐‹๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž.

It is irreversible and irreplaceable.

This year has been very different from others gone by.

For the last 10 years, Iโ€™d coach circa 15 people one on one, and have around 100 โ€“ 200, sixty-to-ninety-minute coaching conversations a year, in amongst my many other professional activities.

This year, Iโ€™ve coached circa 150 people one on one, and have had around 1000 โ€“ 1200, twenty-to-forty-minute coaching conversations, in amongst my many other missionary activities.

Itโ€™s been a little busier, very different, more intensive and a little more tiring too!

However, I absolutely love it!

In amongst all of those coaching conversations, there have been many incredible discoveries made.
Amongst the many coaching techniques, I frequently use, is a very simple one, itโ€™s akin to judo.

The word judo consists of two Japanese characters, ju, which means โ€œgentleโ€, and do, which means โ€œthe wayโ€.

Judo, therefore, literally means the gentle way.

I did say it was simple!

This is the model.

โ€ข Invite them to share their story
โ€ข Ask questions, to create curiosity and to explore their journey.
โ€ข Share a personal story as an alternative view.
โ€ข Review – what can I do better?

As you review 2022 and reflect upon all that has gone by, perhaps you can ask yourself this question tooโ€ฆ

โ€œWhat could I have done better?โ€

Do you accept mistakes?

๐ƒ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐œ๐œ๐ž๐ฉ๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž๐ฌ?
We all make mistakes, its part of being human โ€“ they are a natural part of life.
There are however a lot of negative connotations around making mistakes, which can lead to each of us avoiding things that may stretch us.
Yet, getting it wrong is often the best way to learn.
Albert Einstein once said, “โ€œAnyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.โ€
In fact, giving ourselves permission to fail takes courage!
That may even feel scary too, because it may make us a little vulnerable.
Learning from mistakes can be challenging.
Yet, mistakes are actually very valuable, as long as you learn from them, grow from them, and improve yourself.
Indeed, mistakes are an opportunity to do better next time, and we should make the best out of every mistake we make.
Top Tips
– It is important to acknowledge your mistake and own it.
– Take a deep breath, admit the error, and make your apologies.
– Identify where you went wrong.
– Find the lessons so you can improve next time.
– Apply those lessons so you donโ€™t repeat the mistake.
– Consider sharing what you have learned with others
– Get ready for new mistakes!!
In summary – learning from mistakes is about understanding what you did wrong and making sure that you do not do it again.
What did you learn from your last mistake?