How did you feel about the person?

Have you been heard recently?

I mean, 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒅.

You may have to think long and hard about that question.

It may have been quite a while since you feel that you have been heard.

Can you remember what it felt like?

What words come to mind?

We can all seek to be heard beyond simply the words that we are speaking.

As a coach, frequently I find that coachees want me to know and hear the feelings of their heart.

Sometimes that can take a few sessions to achieve.

My experience has taught me that if you have been heard, then you are much more willing to listen.

Real listening can’t happen unless we have a sincere desire to understand what we’re hearing.

Sometimes – that isn’t easy for many of us, including me too!

Why? Because we also need to suspend our judgement.

You know that voice in your head that says – I know better.

Or that frustrated impatient feeling in your heart which says – I already know how.

When actually – we don’t know better or how at all.

We may think we do, but we don’t!

Listening to someone means getting out of your own head and trying to understand another person’s mind.

It’s all about empathy.

1. Slow down.

2. Let go of your own thoughts and opinions

3. Listen with your whole body, not just with your ears, eyes, and head, but by mirroring their body movements (without being too obvious.)

4. Be genuinely curious, by focusing all your attention on the other person and being present.

5. Become comfortable with silence, allowing the other person space and time to access their inner wisdom.

6. Don’t interrupt and wait until the other person is ready for you to speak.

Listening is crucial to presence.

Why not take a moment, reflect on the tips above and help someone to be heard today?