You’re having a lovely civil conversation, then BOOM! Suddenly your blood pressure surges, you get agitated, you gasp for air, you raise your voice and you have a noticeable urge to throttle the other person…
What just happened?
Emotions kicked in, that’s what happened.
On two occasions this week, my “hot buttons” have been triggered.
So what are emotional triggers?
They can be almost anything. People, situations, words, opinions, can all provoke extreme and disproportionate emotional reactions within all of us, usually resulting in some kind of unhelpful behaviour. Often, the triggers can unconsciously remind us of past life events or maybe even long established beliefs from childhood.
So, what can you do?
In my case, I took some time to question why I was being triggered. Then I took even more time to pause, breathe, reflect. Then I chose to write down what actually happened in my journal. Capturing what emotions surfaced and what my reaction to the events were, actually helped me to have that inner dialogue with myself and understand what happened.
Another learning experience for sure, pausing, recognising the trigger and being able to change the response is key.
What are you emotional triggers and how do you control them?