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The Good Old Days

We are made up of our memories.
And last night a few came flooding back, as Phil Gibbins and I took a stroll down memory laneโ€ฆ.
Stepping back in time, we met at our old Oliver Wyman office at 55 Baker Street in London, followed by a meandering walk in the area and then to a favourite restaurant on Marylebone High Street.
We exchanged a warm hug; joyful smiles were ever present, and our conversation flowed easily as we engaged with one another to reminisce about “๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ˆ๐’๐’๐’… ๐’๐’๐’… ๐’…๐’‚๐’š๐’””.

Storytelling

As we shared our fun memories, there were stories galore and the air was filled with frequent laughter as we spoke about our crazy antics.
Together weโ€™d weathered some notable experiences during our time frame of shared history, working side by side from 2008 โ€“ 2012.
Nostalgic moments, as we felt the power of the past that shaped our present.
Days never to be forgotten!
Over the years, although weโ€™d connected once or twice in bite size chunks on LinkedIn and Zoom, those feelings were simply not the same as seeing each other after such a long time, in real life, to share a drink and meal together.
It was a heart warming reunion, a shared rekindling of a connection that time will never erode.

Life Happens

Life has happened and we are no longer who we once were, the signs of the passage of time had taken their toll!
Our night wasnโ€™t just about the past, as we got caught up on each otherโ€™s current lives our aspirations and how much we had changed.
It was an occasion to reflect and appreciate just how far we had come.
A little older and perhaps a little wiser, but still as cantankerous as ever!
โ€œIt is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.โ€- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Maintaining ties with the past is so important.
Meeting up with Phil last night reminded me of the old Joseph Parry quote, โ€œMake new friends but keep the old. One is silver, and the other is gold.โ€ โ€“ itโ€™s just so true.
As the night came to a close, we recalled our taxi driver โ€œMalcolmโ€ whoโ€™d regularly pick us up at Manchester Airport, and the priceless discovery that after all those years he was still on the speed dial of my phone!
Departing, we promised each other that we wouldnโ€™t leave it so many years until we met again, perhaps next time too, with a few other former colleagues alongside for good measure!
What is the most interesting or funniest memory youโ€™ve taken away from a reunion?

New Friends

Last week, whilst on BBC Radio 4โ€™s โ€œBeyond Beliefโ€, the final question asked to the panellists was โ€œDoes evangelism (missionary work) actually work?โ€
Responding, I said, โ€œAbsolutely!โ€
Like many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, sharing the gospel daily in normal and natural ways is in my DNA!
Last year there were 251,763 new converts of the church around the world.
That equates to 690 new members every day, or 29 every hour.
Post covid, the rate of church growth is accelerating, with an annual increase of 22% year on year.
And why is that so?
Firstly, I believe that it is to do with the times in which we all live.
โ€œThis know also, that in the last days perilous times shall comeโ€ โ€“ 2 Timothy 3:1
We live in such times, and many people are searching for something.
During the last 3 years, Iโ€™ve had the exciting opportunity to be deeply involved in missionary activities of the church in Belgium and the Netherlands.
It was a labour of love.
Doing so, has helped me understand the Saviourโ€™s great commission to His disciples (you and me) to โ€œgo ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghostโ€ โ€“ Matthew 28:19.
Many are finding peace, joy, comfort and reassurance in the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.
Secondly, no matter where you are on planet earth you will find missionaries of the church.
They are pretty distinctive, with their nametags and white shirts.
Today there are 74,000+ young missionaries and another 29,000 senior missionaries serving around the world.
Last night, Monic and I made some new friends in two of those, serving here in our area.
Both come from large families.
Cash Lunt is from Arizona, he is the eldest of 7 children
and Bernardo Machado is from Brazil, he is the eldest of 8 children.
Daily, just as the disciples of old, they go forth throughout Dunfermline and beyond, to invite others to Come unto Christ.
If you see them today, why not stop, talk with them and make some ๐’๐’†๐’˜ ๐’‡๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’…๐’”.
Their message will literally change your life for the good.

Joyful Reunions

Time insisted that we finally move on.
Arriving home on Friday, we laughed, hugged and shared one or two tears at Edinburgh airport with our children.
Cherished moments never to be forgotten.
Life has taught us that you canโ€™t hug family and friends over the internet.
Heading to the car park, we bumped into the outgoing mission leaders in the Scotland/Ireland Mission, James and Andrea McCrudden, who commenced their service at the same time as us in June of 2021.
Then another fortunate coincidence, as a dear consulting friend, just back from an assignment in India, walked up to meโ€ฆ โ€œDaryl! โ€“ that canโ€™t be three years!โ€, “Gordon! โ€“ it certainly was!โ€ I replied.

Heavenly

All of these special moments were heavenly.
It was a day of celebration of shared experiences and the rekindling of our family bond and connection.
And no reunion is complete without a hearty spread of food (haggis nachoโ€™s) and the resonance of genuine laughter together.
Heavenly reunions are filled with love and deep appreciation for family and friends.
Catching up with mum was fun!
The key ingredient of happiness is family.

Reunions

After so many tearful farewells over the last three years, I long for many more of these happy reunions in the years ahead.
Our Heavenly Father wants us to be happy.
Coming to understand our Heavenly Fatherโ€™s โ€œgreat plan of happinessโ€ โ€“ Alma 42:8, you will find many of lifeโ€™s questions are answered in the gospel of Christ.
The Apostle John said, โ€œIf ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do themโ€ โ€“ John 3:17.
Life is a journey woven with threads of connections, some fleeting and others enduring.
I am thrilled that over these last three years we have woven many remarkable connections that will endure forever, weaving our past, present, and future into a tapestry of lasting happiness.
The Prophet Joseph Smith said, “Happiness is the object and design of our existence; and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it; and this path is virtue, uprightness, faithfulness, holiness, and keeping all the commandments of God.”
I know that as we seek to be happy in life, we should remember that the only way to real happiness is to live the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Tuesday Mornings…

Tuesday mornings arenโ€™t going to be quite the same anymore!
For the last 3 years, Jurgen, Chris and I would spend an hour online together as a Mission Presidency, counselling about all of the important matters of running the Belgium Netherlands Mission of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Counsellors

Whilst the missionaries were starting their Preparation Day (P-Day) weโ€™d be counselling together to address the salient challenges of the week.
And there was always lots to talk about.
Although we met weekly, I think hardly one day has passed by that I havenโ€™t spoken with either Jurgen or Chris.
The wise writer of Proverbs tells us that โ€œin โ€ฆ counsellors there is safety.โ€ (Prov. 11:14.)
Counselling together with one another was a constant.
Weโ€™d counsel together in order to reach a united conclusion, to help us know the direction we intended to pursue was in harmony with the Lordโ€™s will.

Volunteers

The three of us never sought out these assignments, we were simply asked by a church leader to serve, giving many hours voluntarily every week.
Itโ€™s been a labour of love for all of us.
Over the last 3 years we have developed a strong bond of friendship too.
On Sunday evening, I took a trip up to Zwolle, with the Assistants, to spend some final moments with Jurgen, Analรญa, and Christel.
I took some time to release Jurgen from his responsibilities in the Mission Presidency and we enjoyed the opportunity to reminisce for a while too.
One of our sweetest memories was when we set up an experimental โ€œSocial Media Districtโ€ for a few months. Lots of lessons were learned together as Jurgen, Analia and Christel spent many long hours working with many missionaries in the office together in Gouda.
For several months, Christel was travelling almost daily between Zwolle and Gouda, as we built some momentum in our social media efforts.
Days never to be forgotten, for sure!
Helen Keller said โ€œThe best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched โ€” they must be felt with the heart.โ€
As I recall the sweet memories made with my dear friends, I know that it is all about what we have all felt in our hearts together.
Thank you for all the memories.
Until we meet again dear friends.

Goodbyes aren’t easy…

As the curtain comes down on our time here in Belgium and the Netherlands, we have become accustomed to departing meetings and fond farewells.
These last few weeks we have shared many tender-hearted goodbye moments.
One of the sweetest was saying farewell to Chris Kleijweg and releasing him too, from his responsibility in the Mission Presidency, whilst in Gouda on Monday.
We have been acquainted with one another for nearly 20 years through various church responsibilities and assignments in Europe together.
Over these last three years working alongside one another so closely and counselling with each another on many occasions, teaching, travelling and meeting together has been a real joy.
Chrisโ€™s knowledge of everything in the Netherlands along with his persistence, wisdom and love have been boundless in the hastening pursuit of the work of salvation and exaltation.
Our friendship will last long after these moments of service together, so says Richard Bach; โ€œA farewell is necessary before we can meet again, and meeting again, after moments or a lifetime, is certain for those who are friends.โ€
I will miss our frequent and regular associations together.
โ€œThe pain of parting is nothing to the joy of meeting againโ€ โ€“ says Charles Dickens.
Until me meet again dear friend.

Assembled Ones

After our final mission conference on Friday, Monic and I excused ourselves for a short time, whilst everyone gathered outside for our last photographs together.
Minutes later, we emerged from the chapel, dressed in our national costumes, catching everyone by surprise!

Gathering

We were greeted with smiles, laughter, whistles and a huge round of applause.
It was a very special moment.

Gathered around us were 138 of our dearest friends.

Individuals we love immensely.

Assembled Ones

The group comprised of one hundred and thirty-eight, unique, individual, ๐’‚๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’Ž๐’ƒ๐’๐’†๐’… ๐’๐’๐’†๐’”.
After the initial gathering (see pictures below), a line was formed and individual pictures were taken ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐›๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง๐ž, with Monic and I.
It took 75 minutes to capture individual photographs together.
Earlier in the day, Iโ€™d shared the principle of ๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ, as taught by Jesus Christ in 3 Nephi 11-28, in The Book of Mormon.
In chapter 11, our resurrected Saviour visits 2,500 assembled ones, gathered at the temple.

One by One

Verse 15 reads: โ€œโ€ฆ.the multitude went forth, and thrust their hands into his side, and did feel the prints of the nails in his hands and in his feet; and this they did do, going forth ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’† until they had all gone forthโ€ฆ.โ€
Just 30 emotionally charged seconds, with 138 of our dearest friends had taken us around 75 minutes to meet with each of them individually, ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’๐’๐’†.
Can you imagine if you had been one of those 2,500, โ€œuntil they had all gone forthโ€ seeing with your eyes, feeling with your hands and knowing of a surety, bearing record, โ€œโ€ฆthat it was he, of whom it was written by the prophets, that should come.โ€ (verse 15)
At 30 seconds each, without any breaks, that equates to around 21 hours to complete the process.
And yet He spent every precious second with His dearest friends.
Would 30 seconds be enough?
The Book of Mormon is another testament of Jesus Christ.
It contains a powerful witness of His ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐›๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง๐ž personal ministry.
Over the last three years, our ministry has been focused upon and directed to ones.
Every one of our missionaries, minister, individually, ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐›๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง๐ž, to help others find the peace and joy that only the gospel of Jesus Christ can bring them.
Hundreds of thousands of ones, find Him every year, and you can be ๐จ๐ง๐ž too.
Speak with a missionary todayโ€ฆ

Friendly Rivalry

I donโ€™t know how exactly, but somehow, I was 1-0 up.
The last time Dofna and I sat around the chess board, Iโ€™d managed to snatch a surprising victory!
I hadnโ€™t played for a very long time.
Teasingly, I enjoyed ribbing him about that triumph for the last 9 months or so. ๐Ÿ˜Š
Itโ€™s my experience that a strong rival inspires the protagonist to become better and does so for the rival as well; in other words, we both fed off (and had a few laughs) of being competitive with one another for a good while.
Our return match was long overdue.
And for the last several weeks, weโ€™d planned to get back together.
Yesterday, Missionary Preparation Day (P-day), visitors arrived at the mission home.
I discovered theyโ€™d already been practicing and honing their chess skills, playing a few games that morning already.
On the other hand, Iโ€™d never looked at a chess board for 9 months!
On a very sunny morning yesterday, in Leidschendam, we geared up to let the battle for dominion commence โ€“ and off we went.
The energy created in our friendly rivalry helped us to focus our efforts for sure.
It was a chance for each of us to shine!
The quiet intensity of the battle was all consuming.
The first game went by all too quickly.
Heโ€™d obviously been fine tuning his skills.
It was 1-1.
I used a well-rehearsed opening in match 2.
Somehow though, quickly he seized my Queen.
Incredibly, a few moves later, I captured his Queen.
Our concentration levels were at fever pitch as the ferociousness of the battle reached its climax.
You could feel the mental energy!
Sadly, for me, the end came swiftly and painfully, he was victorious.
I told him to keep the hat!
Iโ€™m sure too, heโ€™ll enjoy ribbing me for the next few years that heโ€™s 2-1 up!
โ€œWe learn little from victory, much from defeatโ€ โ€“ Japanese Proverb.
And the moral of the story?
๐‘ท๐’“๐’‚๐’„๐’•๐’Š๐’„๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’“๐’š๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ!

The Best Ships are Friendships

These last three years we have formed so many of the most incredible new and enduring, fun filled, love inspired, collective friendships of our life’s.
I consider these friendships to be among the sweetest and most valuable of my entire life.
I love these words from Music and the Spoken Word from March 2019…
โ€œThere are wooden ships, there are sailing ships, there are ships that sail the sea. But the best ships are friendships, and may they always be.โ€
How else can we possibly expect to make it across lifeโ€™s rough seas?
Friendships make the voyage not only possible but also enjoyable.
Among lifeโ€™s richest blessings is friendship.
And while the waves and winds may separate good friends for a timeโ€”even yearsโ€”when they reunite, the time and distance fade almost instantly.
Perhaps youโ€™ve had an experience similar to that of two dear friends who lost contact with each other.
Many years and many miles later, one of them remembered and missed their bond of friendship, so he decided to take the initiative to find his friend.
After decades apart, the friends reconnected, and the joyous reunion melted the years away. Their hearts filled with happiness and fond memories as they laughed together and shared tender feelings. It was as if they had never partedโ€”as if they still lived in the same town and shared the same experiences.
Most of us can remember friends who have touched our lives for good over the years. Some of those friends may now be gone, but the memory of their love, example, and goodness can still lift and inspire us. The love and trust, the listening and caring, the shared time and experiences never really leave us, because they have made us who we are.
Although we may sometimes appear to be independently strong, no one crosses lifeโ€™s waters alone. We need to haveโ€”and need to beโ€”true friends. A meditation by the poet John Donne inspired these lyrics that capture an enduring truth:
No man is an island;
No man stands alone.
Each manโ€™s joy is joy to me;
Each manโ€™s grief is my own.
We need one another,
So I will defend
Each man as my brother,
Each man as my friend.”
Perhaps the lesson for all of us is to consider again the importance of each of our friendships and nurture them with tender love and care, having some fun along the way.”
We need deep, satisfying and loyal friendships with each other.
How do you build and maintain your friendships?

My Finest Friend

Forty years ago this week, my missionary companion trainer (Kelley Gray) and I were serving together in Shepherdโ€™s Bush in London.
Weโ€™d moved there in the first week of December 1983.
We were two bright eyed and bushy tailed young missionaries resolute on finding success.
Christmas was fast approaching, and we were determined to find new ways to share our message of Jesus Christ.
A couple of years earlier, the church had produced a new Movie, โ€œMr Kruegerโ€™s Christmasโ€.
Video recorders were still new, and not too many people had them in their homes yet.
We decided that weโ€™d borrow a huge reel to reel projector (weโ€™re talking massive) from the mission office in our Hyde Park Chapel, transport it to our area, and then use it to go door to door, offering everyone we met a wonderful at home Christmas movie experience!
Whacky idea โ€“ Yes! Creative โ€“ Yes! Successful โ€“ Yes!
We transported the projector by tenaciously balancing it on the centre bar of our bicycles and vividly remember my companion nearly crashing and burning on a couple of occasions!
We also ingeniously, used an OAPโ€™s shopping trolley to pull the projector from neighbourhood to neighbourhood and door to door.
I cannot recall exactly how many peopleโ€™s homeโ€™s we got into, but it was lots!
We watched that movie so many times. Even now, I can recite the words and songs of the movie almost perfectly.
Great times, never to be forgotten.
This year, I may well watch โ€œMr Kruegerโ€™s Christmasโ€ once again.
In one scene, Jimmy Stewart who plays the lead role in the movie, as Willie Krueger, steps towards baby Jesus and says โ€œThank you for everything youโ€™ve done for me. As long as I can remember youโ€™ve been right by my side. Iโ€™ll never forget when you walked with me right in those first few hours after I lost Martha.โ€
โ€œIโ€™ve always been able to count on you when Iโ€™ve felt dark insideโ€ Krueger says.
As he kneels before the Christ child he says โ€œI love you. Youโ€™re my closest, ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’‡๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‡๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’…. And that means I can hold my head high, wherever I go.โ€
Forty years have passed since that Christmas experience.
In between, Iโ€™ve come to know the Light of the World, Jesus Christ, even more, much more personally.
Just like Willie Krueger I can say โ€œI love you. Youโ€™re my closest, ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’‡๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‡๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’…. And that means I can hold my head high, wherever I go.โ€
I hope you find Him too this Christmas Season.

Aligned

Over the course of the last 10 days, I have met face to face with each of the Stake Presidents serving in Belgium and the Netherlands.
I’ve travelled from the most southerly, to the most northerly part of the mission, meeting…
Angelo Leman in Gent
Eelco Scheltinga in Den Haag
and Jerry Bletterman in Groningen
What is the role of a Stake President?
A stake president is the lay leader of a stake, which is a geographic subdivision similar to a Catholic diocese. A stake president is a man who is asked to serve as a volunteer in this position. He oversees Church programmes in a defined geographic area composed of individual congregations called wards and is responsible to help the members of his stake in their efforts to follow Jesus Christ. He also oversees the activities of the bishops or ward leaders, counselling them as needed.
As I met with each of them, I discovered something.
Frequently, in our discussions together, we used the word ๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’๐’†๐’…, or ๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•.
๐€๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ž๐: โ€œsupporting or agreeing with another person, to match behaviours, thoughts or views, harmonize the aims or practicesโ€
It was a marvel.
Whilst living here, in two countries where bicycles are everywhere, Iโ€™ve learned the importance of wheel alignment.
To keep your bike running smoothly, truing a wheel involves tightening and adjusting spokes from time to time to keep your wheels aligned.
Similarly meeting together from time to time with each Stake President, ensures that we are in full alignment.

Staying aligned

We are spiritually aligned through our faith in God, our testimonies of the truth, plus the knowledge and wisdom that each of us have gathered, as we study the holy scriptures and follow living prophets.
Quentin L. Cook recently said โ€œOur Heavenly Fatherโ€™s plan for safely gathering His children to our heavenly home is not based on worldly success, economic status, education, race, or gender. Fatherโ€™s plan is based on righteousness, keeping His commandments, and receiving sacred ordinances and honouring the covenants we make.โ€
I love these men.
They have become true friends.
I feel united and aligned with each of them as together, we boldly declare the message of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ and invite all to come unto Him.