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Crucial Conversations

Consider the two words below.
– rea๐‚tive
– ๐‚reative
These two words describe the mindset that you can bring to any conversation.
There is a key difference in the position of the letter โ€œ๐‚โ€
Best-selling author Neale Donald Walsch, says โ€œWhen we ๐‚ things correctly, life becomes ๐‚reative instead of rea๐‚tive.โ€
Repositioning a letter… one ๐’”๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’ move, makes a ๐’‰๐’–๐’ˆ๐’† difference.
Our mindset is vitally important.
Changing the way, we talk with one another; will change the way we act.
And subsequently changing the way people act, will in turn, as a result, change the outcomes.
Recently Iโ€™ve been involved in several conversations about presence.
Presence: being aware of what is happening in the moment, experiencing body sensations, noticing thoughts, feeling emotions.
Whilst deepening your presence can be somewhat challenging, the results can be transformative.
When we are present, we are in touch with whatโ€™s really happening.
Research reveals that presence is a capacity that can be developed by everyone.
Being ๐‚reative in the here-and-now is pivotal in re-energising and engaging people around you.
Slowing down is equally crucial.
When people listen to each other, they do their best thinking, by surfacing concerns in both directions.
Subsequently, when you are really โ€œpresentโ€ and โ€œlandโ€ in the moment by addressing what matters most, experience has taught me that new unseen possibilities emerge and come into view.
So, what does all this mean for you and me?
Simply stated, a single conversation can potentially open or shut a door on a whole new future that can help us to become more conscious of how we talk with one another.
Choose to be present today and for a while, give someone your undivided attention.
How do you ๐‚/๐ฌ๐ž๐ž things?

Time is Life

๐“๐ข๐ฆ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐‹๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž.

It is irreversible and irreplaceable.

This year has been very different from others gone by.

For the last 10 years, Iโ€™d coach circa 15 people one on one, and have around 100 โ€“ 200, sixty-to-ninety-minute coaching conversations a year, in amongst my many other professional activities.

This year, Iโ€™ve coached circa 150 people one on one, and have had around 1000 โ€“ 1200, twenty-to-forty-minute coaching conversations, in amongst my many other missionary activities.

Itโ€™s been a little busier, very different, more intensive and a little more tiring too!

However, I absolutely love it!

In amongst all of those coaching conversations, there have been many incredible discoveries made.
Amongst the many coaching techniques, I frequently use, is a very simple one, itโ€™s akin to judo.

The word judo consists of two Japanese characters, ju, which means โ€œgentleโ€, and do, which means โ€œthe wayโ€.

Judo, therefore, literally means the gentle way.

I did say it was simple!

This is the model.

โ€ข Invite them to share their story
โ€ข Ask questions, to create curiosity and to explore their journey.
โ€ข Share a personal story as an alternative view.
โ€ข Review – what can I do better?

As you review 2022 and reflect upon all that has gone by, perhaps you can ask yourself this question tooโ€ฆ

โ€œWhat could I have done better?โ€