Unpredictable, and That’s Okay!

“Help me understand how this works for you?”

That’s a question I’ve used a lot in my coaching practice recently.

Especially when working with minds of all kinds, each one wired differently, each one worthy of being understood on its own terms.

There have been a few sessions where, being honest, I thought, “We didn’t go anywhere today.”

Lately, I’ve been learning to see those moments differently.

What’s changed?

I have been doing a bit of work with clients who are neurodivergent.

Those living with ADHD, Autism, anxiety, or simply a different way of processing the world.

I’ve realised: We always go somewhere.

…It just might not be where I expected, or how I expected to get there!

The pace of any progress is much less linear and far more unpredictable.

I’ve noticed that some clients speak in bursts, that are full of energy, with fast and fragmented thoughts being expressed simultaneously.

It’s often messy!

I hold that space without rushing to fill it or “tidy it up.”

And so, I adapt.

I shift.

I follow their cues.

I flex.

I slow down.

Interestingly, I’ve also noticed my own routines and habits more closely.

I’m growing curious about the ways my own neurodiverse traits and stress responses show up.

In many ways, it feels like I’m becoming a student again.

I used to think my job as a coach was to guide people to clarity.

But now, I wonder if it’s more about staying curious while they create their own clarity, in their own way, and most importantly, in their own time.

And as they evolve… so do I.

I’m still learning.

Who in your life might need you to slow down, adapt, and simply ask, “Help me understand how this works for you”?